Being kind is built into our genes, that’s why it makes us healthier, less depressed, less stressed, less anxious, less likely to be bullied and even physically stronger.
People who are effective at being kind have clear boundaries about what is, and what is not, okay.
It’s best to start with small acts of kindness and build them up slowly.
The best acts of kindness are those which bring us closer to other people.
A very effective act of kindness is to ask those around you if they’re okay – twice. This is because asking the second time shows them that we are not just being polite – we really do want to know if they’re okay.
It’s possible that our acts of kindness will be met with rejection and even hostility. One way to deal with this is by seeing any such rejection as a mark of our own courage – it means we have been brave enough to make ourselves vulnerable.